Tips to Release Self-Neglect and Love Yourself in Action

The most important decision of your life that will affect every other decision you make is the commitment to love and accept yourself. It directly affects the quality of your relationships, work, free time, and future. Why, then, is this so difficult to do? We’re taught by society that our worth is found in the idols of our culture—technology, status, youth, power, money, attractiveness, and romantic relationships. If you base your self-worth on the external world, you’ll never be capable of self-love. Your inner critic will flood you with thoughts, “I’m not enough, I don’t have enough, and I don’t do enough.” Feelings of lack are never-ending. Every time a goal is reached or you possess the next big thing, your ego will move the line.

Shift Your Self-Perception

Feeling worthy requires you to see yourself with fresh eyes of self-awareness and love. Acceptance and love must come from within. You don’t have to be different to be worthy. Your worth is in your true nature, a core of love and inner goodness. You are a beautiful light. You are love. We can bury our magnificence, but it’s impossible to destroy. Loving ourselves isn’t a one-time event. It’s an endless, ongoing process. It begins with you, enfolding yourself in your own affection and appreciation.

Read on for steps to discover your worth and enfold yourself in affection and appreciation.

1. Begin Your Day with Love (Not Technology)

Remind yourself of your worthiness before getting out of bed. Breathe in love and breathe out love. Enfold yourself in light. Saturate your being in love.

2. Take Time to Relax and Journal

Spend time focusing inward daily. Begin with five minutes of doing absolutely nothing and five minutes of journaling each morning. Gradually increase this time.

3. Talk Yourself Happy

Use affirmations to train your mind to become more positive. Put a wristband on your right wrist. When you’re participating in self-criticism, move the band to your left wrist.

4. Get Emotionally Honest

Let go of numbing your feelings. Shopping, eating, and drinking is examples of avoiding discomfort, sadness, and pain. Mindfully breathe your way through your feelings and emotions.

5. Expand your Interests

Try something new. Learn a language. Go places you’ve never been. Do things you haven’t done before. You have a right to an awesome life.

6. Enjoy Life Enhancing Activities

Find an exercise you like. Discover healthy foods that are good for you. Turn off technology for a day and spend time doing things that make you feel alive.

7. Become Willing to Surrender

Breathe, relax, and let go. You can never see the whole picture. You don’t know what anything is for. Stop fighting against yourself by thinking and desiring people and events in your life should be different. Your plan may be different from your soul’s intentions.

8. Work on Personal and Spiritual Development

Be willing to surrender and grow. Life is a journey. We are here to learn and love on a deeper level. Take penguin steps and life becomes difficult. One step at a time is enough to proceed forward.

9. Own Your Potential

Love yourself enough to believe in the limitless opportunities available to you. Take action and create a beautiful life for yourself.

10. Be Patient With Yourself

Let go of urgency and fear. Relax and transform striving into thriving. Trust in yourself, do good work, and you will see results.

11. Live in Appreciation

Train your mind to be grateful. Appreciate your talents, beauty, and brilliance. Love your imperfectly perfect self.

12. Be Guided By Your Intuition

All answers come from within. Look for signs and pay attention to your gut feelings. You’ll hear two inner voices when you need to make a decision. The quiet voice is your higher self; the loud voice is your ego. Always go with the quieter voice.

13. Do What Honors and Respects You

Don’t participate in activities that bring you down. Don’t allow toxic people in your life. Love everyone, but be discerning about who you allow into your life.

14. Accept Uncertainty

Suffering comes from living in the pain of the past or the fear of the future. Put your attention on the present moment and be at peace.

15. Forgive Yourself

Learn from your mistakes and go forward. Use this affirmation, “I forgive myself for judging myself for __________ (fill in the blank i.e.: for getting sick, for acting out, for not doing your best).

16. Discover the Power of Fun.

Self-love requires time to relax, play, and create face-to-face interactions with others. Our fast-paced world creates a goal setting, competitive craziness that doesn’t leave room for play. Dr. Stuart Brow says, “The opposite of play isn’t working, it is depression.”

17. Be Real

Speak up and speak out. Allow yourself to be seen, known, and heard. Get comfortable with intimacy (in-to-me-see).

18. Focus on the Positive

Go to your heart and dwell on and praise yourself for what you get right in all areas.

19. Become Aware of Self-Neglect and Rejection

Become conscious of your choices. Ask yourself several times throughout the day, “Does this choice honor me?”

20. Imagine What Your Life Would Look Like if You Believed in Your Worth

Dedicate your life to loving you. Make it your main event.

Why Is It So Important To Love Yourself?

This may seem more important to some than others, but self-love is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Being in love with yourself provides you with Self Confidence and self-worth and it will generally help you feel more positive. You may also find that it is easier for you to fall in love once you have learned to love yourself first.

If you can learn to love yourself, you will be much happier and will learn how to best take care of yourself. When you are truly in love with yourself and happy, you should stop comparing yourself to others so much and should find yourself more confident, not worrying as much about what others think.

Final Words

It is so easy to focus on your faults and everyone can dwell on their insecurities instead of the things about themselves that they are happy with. Doing this can cause you to dislike yourself. You may also be too busy focusing on others around you and not focusing on loving yourself. Some people don’t want to be alone and fear doing things on their own. This can really hinder your journey to self-love, as you have to learn to be comfortable being with yourself.

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